Sending an email to someone you have not yet become acquainted with, is a little like saying “Hi” to a stranger at a party or social function. The big difference being, that you cannot watch the person’s body language to judge their response to you. What you should try to do, is to pick out a feature you like of the person you are sending a message to. For example, if the member you want to contact has an attractive smile, it is a good idea to point this out in your in your email and pay them a compliment in a way that attracts their attention.
Try to avoid being cheesy or sleazy, as this has a tendency to have an undesired effect on the reader. Instead ask some inquiring questions about her family, friends and hobbies.
Do not make the mistake of giving your life story in an introduction email. Telling someone your life story to a person you have not yet met, is unlikely to have a favourable reaction. Imagine your reaction if some on a bus sat next to you and began to recite their life’s trials and tribulations.
Try to use the “YOU” “WE” “I” concept in correspondence. When you begin a conversation, begin with sentences or questions incorporating the word “YOU”. |
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After awhile and you begin to build up a rapport and developed a basic conversation, you can then begin to incorporate the word “WE” into sentences. |
- “It looks like WE are getting on well together”
- “Maybe WE could meet one day”
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By this stage you should be getting enough confidence to talk a little about yourself, without the other person asking a question relating to you. If this so then saying the sentences with “I” is quite acceptable. |
- “I take an hot bath when I get home”
- “I love walking my dog in a morning”
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These are just basic examples but the theory holds very well even in verbal communications. The golden rule being; do not talk about yourself unless the person you are having a conversation with, asks you a question to do so.
For men who are shy or nervous, it is a great tactic to ask open questions that gives the lady a chance to talk. Open questions are those which require a sentence to answer as opposed to a yes or no reply. I.E. “Why did you join Philippineangels.com?” Women generally love to talk, so use this to your best advantage. However a word of caution, if you are letting someone do the leading role in conversation, you must listen carefully and reply with intelligent answers and comments!
Please do not just write “Hi how are you?” try to be more creative and bring some humour into your message. If the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, the way to a lady’s heart has to be through laughter.
It’s also worth bearing in mind that you should use good English language and avoid as many colloquialisms as possible to minimise confusion and possible misunderstanding. Naturally in inappropriate swear words should be avoided in all instances, blasphemes and politically sensitive suggestions or accusations are also a big none starter as far as letters go. It should also go without saying that messages containing rude and suggestive innuendo may not always bring the desired response! Instead, try to be subtle and complimentary and make the Lady feel at ease. A lady, who gets the inclination you are only interested in the fastest way to meet beneath the sheets, is likely to make the conversation at best, one way!
If all else fails, try to imagine you are face to face with the person you are corresponding with and write as if you were having a normal conversation with them, add a liberal amount of charm with a good helping of wit and Robert should be your uncle.
Don’t forget, you never get a second chance at a first impression.
And finally....Please refrain from sending explicit photographs of yourself hoping to attract a member’s attention. We are all over 18 and know what genitals look like, even of yours are seemingly different in shape or size from others, regrettably for you exhibitionists, its a few rungs down the ladder on the list of priorities in getting to know someone.
Good luck! |
